4 Types of Breakups You Have in Midlife

Breaking up isn’t an easy thing to do when you’re a woman in midlife and dating. Your routine of seeing your partner every day suddenly disappears and you are back to being uncertain about the future. It’s even harder if you aren’t the initiator of the breakup, and you are the one being broken off. Sometimes it can be mutual, sometimes it comes as a surprise and sometimes it’s such a shock you don’t want to accept it. However, no matter what, every relationship that comes to an end also comes to a new beginning.

Instead of thinking and wondering why he or she broke up with you, realize that this was the natural course of the relationship. Does that mean that you will never get back together? No. There are different types of breakups which can affect our emotions differently, but after breaking up, it is time to return focus to someone you know very well, yourself. You personally must see how you can improve as a person and not look back regretting choices that were made.

Let’s go over the different types of breakups you may have gone through:

1.The Expected Breakup

The expected breakup is when there are obvious signs something went wrong in the relationship. Couples over 40 are able to focus on their partners more at this point in life, and will usually know if a breakup is looming. Either you or your partner did something to wrong one another, there were constant arguments, or you both realize it’s time to move on from this relationship because it isn’t going to lead anywhere.

2. The Unexpected Breakup

This is the breakup that comes out of the clear blue sky. Everything can be going well in the relationship, but your partner suddenly decides to call it quits and leaves you dumbfounded and left wondering, why. In the case of this breakup, outside factors is typically the cause. Pressure from ones family to breakup, or needing to relocate for a job are all reasons for an unexpected breakup if a relationship seems fine.

3. The Unwanted Breakup

Out of all the types of breakups, this may be the hardest. You sense your relationship is in a rocky state, but you try everything in your power to please your partner and keep the relationship together even if it is bad. When your partner tries to create some distance, you become even more proactive to keep the relationship together. You are left knowing your relationship is doomed, but still having a strong sense of attachment.

4. Taking a break

Taking a break from a relationship is considered a breakup. Both parties may mutually agree that they need space, but are still emotionally attached to each other and may want to get back together, but anything goes after the break. Your ex may be seeing someone new to see if that relationship is comparatively better than the relationship you two were in. When your partner tells you they want a break, don’t make plans on getting back together with that person in the future.

Whether you are the one breaking off a relationship, or the one being broken up with, it is important to keep in mind what type of breakup you went through because the process of healing and moving on is different for each. When you’re older, you may feel as if you will not have a chance to meet someone new again, but that is far from true. Give yourself time to focus on yourself again, and when you are ready to take that step again, you’ll be more prepared to take on the dating game once again.