How To Establish Your Relationship When You’re Over 50? 5 Steps to Doing Right

The most important thing to remember when you’re dating and you’re over 50,and you’re looking for a serious relationship is that you do not have time to waste.

Time is something that as adults we need to cherish. Therefore, establishing your relationship with the person you’re dating should be in the fore front of your mind.

So how do you establish what type of relationship you currently have with your partner? Simple, just follow the steps below and your relationship will go from “we are seeing each other” to ” we are an official couple”:

1. Determine whether or not you really see this person as a future mate. This is imperative because if you don’t see a future together with this person then the tips below won’t assist in any way. It depends on the feeling you feel with the person and the connection you form.

2. The sooner the better. If you are dating for a serious relationship ONLY – this should come up as early as the second date. By the 6th date if you have yet to mention your intentions for a serious monogamous relationship well soon you’ll just be platonic.

3. Approach the issue confidently and with seriousness. Your future time is being gambled away if you don’t clearly state your intentions with your partner from the get go. Therefore, when you do mention it be sure to do so in a serious manner, and not to joke about it. Joking about it, or pushing it off will lead to no end result. Your tone should sound serious, and you should be straightforward. For example: ” I want to clarify, that I am looking for a serious relationship now. Are you?” Wait, and then use your hearing skills to determine if he/she is or is not looking for the same type of relationship.

4. Don’t let the conversation slide. The longer you procrastinate, the longer you’ll be thought of as a friend, or a “someone”. You want respect, and if you see it going somewhere, be upfront as possible, as soon as possible.
5. If he says NO, move on and date other people. If you mention this fact, and he laughs it off, or neglects to answer, or just says isn’t it too soon let him know at that point, you will be dating other people. The mentality of you seeing other people may strike him as odd, or off but it will ultimately turn his senses on. Does he want a relationship with you? It’s only after this small ultimatum that the man will begin looking at the relationship in a different light, and in a week come back and say “You know…I am ready for a serious, monogamous relationship with you.”

In sum, sometimes, you need to give a little push to get what you want, but ultimately if he wants it too, the push will bring him back to you. Remember, your time is valuable. You must realize that you can’t spend time with a man who doesn’t see the relationship in the same way you do. Clarify to him what it is you’re looking for in a relationship, and do this as soon as possible. The sooner it’s done the better for you! You can then rest assured that you’re not wasting your time, and missing out on different men who want the same relationship you’re seeking!

Until next time…. Where Relationships Over Fifty Begin Anew.